WOOD YOU IF YOU COULD

CÉLINE top // Ksubi jeans

For those of you who wish you had my life, all you have to do is work 9 am - 7 pm everyday and then come home and watch old episodes of Lie To Me (because you've already seen every single episode of SVU 3 times from that one time you watched it from the first episode of the first season to the last episode of the last season front to back to front again). This is about as much partying as I do. And I like it. #friday

27 comments :

Liona said...

No offence, but most people do work the same hours and still not able to pay their bills let alone to buy $500-1000 worth of shoes+clothes almost every week. I love and adore your blog, and it seems like you're a real self-made, but yes, it is sometimes hard to accept that I work 10 hours a day sometimes and get nowhere near to high fashion. Jealousy is a bitch, but you are privileged no matter what you're saying. Eating out that often like you do is something most people can't afford. I personally don't buy what you just have said, but I don't envy you either, if you work for it you deserve to do whatever you please to do, but this 9-5 thing just doesn't add up in real life...

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LOVETHEFABRIC said...

I love that top soo much!

LOVETHEFABRIC said...

I love that top soo much!

FASHION SNAG said...

Love that top. Sounds like my life except I watch Seinfeld over and over.


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Shini said...

Liona, some people are lawyers and earn $400 an hour, some are supermarket tellers and make minimum wage - doesn't change the fact that they both work 9-5.

Aesthetic.Li said...

I hear you Jayne, a blog can be really hard to merge reality with perception, but from one blogger homebody to another, keep on watching Lie To Me & I'll keep on watching 48hr mysteries... - Aliya

Ami said...

I think the point of what she wrote is that she works hard and is mostly a homebody. Nothing was said about salary or buying expensive clothes. But yea, jealousy is a bitch.

Anyway, cute dog! He looks a bit different in the last picture.

Liona said...

Shini,
I know that very well, and that is not what I meant. I was talking about the material aspect of Jayne's "average life." I see nothing average about it(designer items upon designer items), and people like me (with average life, even though worked hard for good education, etc.) get nowhere near to that. It doesn't add up to me, but I would be happy to hear an honest explanation from a top blogger with allegedly average job/life on this matter. How do you manage to keep up buying these fairly expensive items so frequently? ( I have no children, work for more than the minimum wage, and have no mortgage but paying for rent,)so basically the same lifestyle but even Zara is an expensive trip for me once every third month...curious. I know it may not be my business but since these things are shared with tens of thousands of people on this blog, I thought it was ok to ask.

STOP IT RIGHT NOW said...

Hi Liona. Thanks for your comment, I encourage healthy discourse. It's usually healthier, though, when people have an open mind. It just seems like no matter what I say your mind's made up, but sure, let's clear some things up.

A. In no way was this post to paint an "average" picture of my life as a whole. It was simply speaking on my social life, which is actually below average. Fact.

B. Like Shini said, you and I may work the same hours but simply have different salaries. I can afford to buy more expensive things than, say, a supermarket teller, but does that automatically mean I come from privilege? Nope.

C. I can afford to pay my bills and also buy nice things sometimes, yes that's obvious. But not $500-$1000 almost every week. You can choose to extract what you will from my posts, but if you were really in a truth-seeking mood you could take note of post dates or rummage through my Instagram and see things unfold rather uneventfully. Sometimes I've had things for a while and happen to post them all in one week making it seem like frequent extravagant purchasing. Because of the blog, I do also get things for free. Sometimes I get things at a discount. I sell a lot of things. If you have questions in regards to my buying strategies, they're mostly addressed here http://www.stopitrightnow.com/2012/04/consumption.html

D. I actually don't eat out often, I don't know where that came from. My most frequent eating out is getting lunch while at work, like a $3 Mexican Pizza from Taco Bell yesterday. But most days are gluten free bread and hummus while working at my desk or other groceries I bring from home.

Basically, it's apparent that you're choosing to believe that we have parallel lives, but with the main source of contention being that I can afford things that you cannot, ergo I have some advantage or privilege and am a fraud. When in fact, things are not that black and white. There are lots of behind the scenes factors you don't see. Cold hard facts are, I come from a working class family and did not marry into wealth. I buy my things with my own money, neither my parents nor my husband contribute (in case that was your next leap). I work more hours than the average person and earn my own money and am self sufficient and don't have any outside advantages other than the extra opportunities this ol' blog affords me. I'm sure that's disappointing for you to hear since you seem so convinced that I'm a sham. None of this probably even matters and all sounds like a long-winded excuse. There will always be something for you to further dissect. In short, there's no satisfying people who already have their minds made up. And in the end I have no desire to convince you.

This response is for the people who do have questions (perfectly healthy!), but also open minds and maybe need to hear that it is possible to be a "successful" (arbitrary) person by your own merit. HARD WORK PAYS OFF. YOU CAN DO IT.

(and watch Lie To Me, I swear it's good).

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Aesthetic.Li said...

Jayne!!!! Good response.

Grace said...

Liona if a Zara trip every third month is an expensive trip, I don't think you're earning that much above the minimum wage. And you can't compare yourself to someone who obviously makes more than that and make them feel bad about buying designer goods that they save up for. I don't think Jayne deserves all that hate on her wonderful blog.

Belle Griffioen said...

All drama aside; where did you get that top <3

Belle Griffioen said...

All drama aside; where did you get that top from <3

lisaaa said...

Hi Jayne,
love your blog and great response. You are such a down to earth person and I think most of us really appreciate the blog, since it's you sharing your fashion , style and life with us.

random fact: your celine furry shoes are my wallpaper on my work computer haha.

Anonymous said...

Jayne. What the heck. This is literally what I do when I relax. SVU AND Lie to Me?! I'm not trying to be extra omg-look-twinsies or some shit, but I guess there were more of us hermits than I thought. Literally the only different thing is that I am repeating the scene with a fat ball of feline fluff curling up next to me. Well then. TIm Roth.

Cloudline Chic Flows said...

Yay to uneventful Fridays and below average social life. I can always relate to you. My SVU is in fact LOST but since I'm a burnout now I have went back to Twin Peaks.

This pic of Pom love and celine top makes my Sonic Youth Sunday feel betta.

Rosalinda Tjioe said...

Love your outfit! Nice top x

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Zoe said...

Jayne,

i am the living proof that sometimes hard work does not pay off.
I have a phD in neuroscience and guess what - i can hardly make a living and i work really hard- almost 12 hours per day.
I do love buying designer stuff when i can afford them and i really enjoy it.
I totally agree with your response except the fact that most times is you ''lucky star'' that pays off and not your hard work.

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Anonymous said...

Jayne this is why i love u.l the responce was eloquent and honest. I am oo in the fashion industry (assoct designer). working hard. You give me hope..lol

Uche said...

Jayne,
I'm a 29 year old who's working in a career path that I love and whilst I may not be able to afford all the things you do; I'm certainly not concerned with how much you make or how you're able to afford them. I think it's absolutely brilliant that can afford them. Why I keep coming back and even bother to leave comments is because above all you put them together so well and as a tomboy of sorts. I can relate. :)

Anonymous said...

That response was amazing. I can't believe you had justify and explain your spending habits. In a perfect world, no one would give a fuck and mind their own business.

I love that you have all these fancy clothes and are such a homebody! Perfect life imo

P.S. I totally look up to you in a cool big sister way

Shawnee said...

After you finish those two (as I have), I highly HIGHLY recommend Medium. There are 7 seasons. SEVEN.

Hokthai said...

I really love buying designing stuff!
Thanks.

FASHION ICE said...

that top is amazing! you look fab. your style is on point xx